#MyInsideMatchesMyOutside – Reflections

Hi fellow seekers!

I have been reflecting on this past year and decade these last few weeks of 2019. I have experienced so many transitions, endings big and small, beginnings, commitments new & renewed, and stepping into unknown territory with family, friends, work but most importantly myself. These experiences have shifted my perceptions, intentions and connections.

On this eve of 2020 I am choosing to take one step at a time and not get in front of my goals and intentions. ACTION is the key no matter how big or small. I will not judge the process instead I will embrace the knowledge that comes from risking. I will let my inside match my outside and not be afraid to be seen or heard.

I am looking forward to this year and decade ahead. Wishing you all a happy, safe and peaceful start to this New Year!

Hugs, Mira


By |2020-01-03T16:57:19+00:00December 31st, 2019|

Daily Choices…where do I start?


As I am working on my upcoming workshop material I am reminded how everything that we do really boils down to choices whether we recognize that we are making them or are just letting them happen to us.

When I feel stuck most often it is because I am lacking clarity as to what choices I have in the situation. When I’m living outside of myself it is difficult to see where I have a choice. It most often feels like others are making choices that are forcing me into situations, responsibilities or are working against me. I then find myself being defensive, combative or resigned (can you say martyr?) with what is happening. This frame of being is a choice. I have removed myself from being first person where I can take action on my own behalf and have made a choice to let others take responsibility for the situation(s) at hand.

To bring myself back into my body I must first become curious about how I am feeling. Letting myself observe my reactions and feelings without adding judgement of myself or others. This is a lot harder to do than it is in theory. Give it a try. How are you feeling right now? Is there something that you are struggling with? Can you look at the situation as an outsider would just being curious and not judging? Just gathering information to present at a later time to someone else (you)?

When I re-frame the information in a non-judgemental way it gives me the space to truly ask myself what I want. I might actually come to the same choice where before I felt it was something being forced on me. Or I may come to a completely different choice. Either way I have taken the struggle out of the situation by giving myself permission first to acknowledge that I do have a choice and then to take the action of making the choice on my behalf.

When I engage, acknowledge my choice whether big or small it keeps me in my body and allows me to use all of my senses in the present moment. This is a daily practice, a moment to moment practice for me that has brought me to let my inside match my outside. I am in no way perfect in this practice that is why I call it  a practice. I am always learning and growing into my best self if I give myself the opportunity and choice!

Until Next Time!  Hugs, Mira

By |2018-09-12T16:23:33+00:00September 12th, 2018|

Soul Food…exploring how I nourish myself


I received this beautiful bounty of vegetables (Mustard Greens, pepper, onions and carrots. The tomatoes are from my patio garden.) from my In-Laws this week. They came from Robert’s garden which he tends to everyday. Esther had washed and cleaned them up so that they were all ready for me to use in any way I wanted. A few months back Esther gave me a Soul Food cookbook of hers with some recipes marked inside for me to try. One of my favorite things that Esther makes on a regular basis  are “greens” and Robert makes the cornbread. I learned early on that greens and corn bread go together. I would say that most often when we pop over for a visit that there are greens and corn bread on the stove which they always offer some to us to have or take with us. So I decided to try one of the recipes for greens and corn bread in the cookbook and see if it measured up to Esther’s.

Cooking for me has always been a way for me to relax and think through things. I love to cook for others and share what I have made. I get great joy from making people’s bellies happy. I was very excited for Robby to try my greens and hopeful that they would give him a “soul food” happy belly. What I learned about myself as I thought about what soul food means to me was very interesting. First to receive such a beautiful bounty of food was heart warming. It made me feel loved (Robert was thoughtful enough to share a part of his harvest), nurtured (Esther took the time to wash and clean the vegetables) and understood (they both know how I love to cook). What an amazing gift to receive….I had to take a few minutes to really let that settle into my body. I was loved, nurtured and understood by what some may think as a simple gesture but to me it was so much more.

As the greens simmered and the cornbread baked it filled the house with the most amazingly delicious smells of happiness. I was working in my kitchen which Robby always refers to as my “nesting” and I couldn’t be happier. I realized that I was giving and receiving at the same time. Making food to share with my husband (and one of my lucky clients got a “take home” sample) with the bounty we received from his parent’s. It was not lost on me that such simple acts became such beautiful expressions when I took the time to acknowledge how I was feeling.

Living consciously is more about the little things than the big things. Everyone can see the big things that happen or don’t, but do you take time to acknowledge all the little things? I know that I will work at being more aware of the little things because what an amazing feeling being love, nurtured and understood can bring to your day!


And I must say it turned out to be a bowl of Robby approved Soul Food!


Until next time!  Hugs, Mira

By |2018-08-30T21:10:40+00:00August 30th, 2018|

Courage is not subjective for me!


Living daily Courage is such an interesting state of being. For me Courage is definitely a verb that has taken time to become an acceptable descriptor in my daily life. I have had to live it and accept it as being true even when it has felt very uncomfortable seeing myself as being courageous. Part of this was realizing that I was judging myself and making choices based on what others thought of me or what I believed they thought of me. It took time, patience and acceptance of myself just as I am to be able to shift into seeing the courage in my daily life and change it from being subjective to an active objective verb.

I often turn to this definition by google to give myself perspective  –

Definition of Subjective:

Subjective is the opposite of objective, which refers to things that are more clear-cut. That Earth has one moon is objective — it’s a fact. Whether the moon is pretty or not is subjective — not everyone will agree. Facts are objective, but opinions are subjective.


I have read a lot about courage, vulnerability, living your truth and daily consciousness. It is hard and rewarding to incorporate these verbs into my daily life. I am in no way perfect in the practice of these principals, who can be? I believe that life is a process of continuous learning and growing through every choice that I make (or don’t make). Let’s be clear, not making a choice is still a choice that I have to own. When I look at my choices as verbs  then I am in continuous motion. It helps me alleviate feeling stuck because I know that choices are continual, if the first choice doesn’t work then I have another choice to make. I also don’t believe that we are practicing at life but living it in every moment. When I am living I own all of my choices. Practicing my life tells me that I am dipping my toe in the water to gauge the choice. How can I fully experience my choice if I don’t jump in the deep end and see where it leads?

My daily mantra as I look in the mirror is ” I will be courageous in every choice I make today to let my inside match my outside”…Sometimes that is easier said than done but thankfully I get to choose that for myself.

Until next time!  Hugs, Mira

#myinsidematchesmyoutside #buffaloismyword #grateful #mychoicemylife


By |2018-08-30T19:34:07+00:00August 23rd, 2018|

Letting my Inside match my Outside

Life has so many interesting twists and turns, it is rarely a straight line for very long. If I find myself stuck on a straight line I now challenge myself (sometimes reluctantly) to look inside and see what feelings, desires, fears, passions, questions I am not letting come to the surface. I have found that it is only when I let them come fully to the surface that I have the ability to address them head on with curiosity and truth.

Funny enough curiosity was the hardest place for me to go at first because I was so used to judging what I was feeling. And most often this judgement was based on what I thought others would think of me, want from me or would make me appear as uncomplicated as possible. Believe me I have come to understand and embrace that I am a complicated individual. It is in those complications that I find the deeper connections to those around me and to just purely enjoying my daily life.

I started this inner journey in a more conscious way about nine years ago with my tribe in the picture below. I would never have guessed that I would be writing this in Hawaii, on my honeymoon nine years later. This tribe that has and continues to love, support, challenge, push, shove, hug, laugh, cry and most importantly always accepts me exactly where I am. I am truly beyond grateful for always having a soft landing with them even when I’m coming in hot!

I am starting a new blog series called Living Out Loud – #myinsidematchesmyoutside #buffaloismyword

I hope you follow along, offer your feelings, share what’s happening with you as we are all on this journey together!

Until next time!  Hugs, Mira

By |2018-08-10T10:38:55+00:00August 9th, 2018|

Can we really give & receive at the same time?

One of my very favorite mantra’s that I use to guide my choices is a quote from Maya Angelou


“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”


In last nights Workshop #6 in the Making A Deeper Connection series we dove into the Heart Chakra. This Chakra which is located in the chest is our “action” center, which means where we give and receive. If you think about what main organs reside in our chest(the heart and lungs), we acknowledge that without these two major organs functioning we would not be able to sustain life in our bodies. Similarly if we give without receiving, or receive without giving we are not able to sustain a balanced emotional body.

In simplest terms take time to really acknowledge someone’s thank you when you do something for them. That acknowledgement is the balancing receiving gift to the one you freely gave. Maybe it’s just a smile…but notice how in that simple recognition how you absorb the warmth of the interaction and how it makes you feel at a deeper level within your body. Let yourself feel your act of giving not from outside of yourself but from the inside which gives your emotional self the validation that you are living as your authentic self.

Giving without receiving means that you are missing half of the experience, just as receiving without giving is only half of the full experience.


How often do you only experience one half of this equation? Be curious with yourself and observe your interactions with others and what you may be missing in the simplest of situations. Your emotional being will start to feel fuller, calmer and more confident and loved when you allow yourself to participate in both sides of the equation when it comes to giving & receiving. I am growing and learning to be present enough to enjoy this experience in my life…how about you?

Hugs, Mira

By |2017-08-03T18:14:01+00:00August 3rd, 2017|

3rd Chakra Work! How we translate our emotions through digestion…


Tonight’s workshop topic is the 3rd chakra and how it is the translator in our life. It holds our digestive system where our body pulls apart what we have chosen to feed and nourish it with. It also is where we emotionally act on our belief system and how we view ourselves and how we want to be seen in the world.

Do you nourish yourself with food that your body loves or with food your body rebels against?


Do you allow your emotions to sabotage how you feel about yourself or do you embrace your emotions and ask yourself the deeper questions about why you are feeling as you do in the moment?


These are some of the interesting conversations we will be having tonight as we feast on supportive foods for our digestive system like, roasted salmon and asparagus with lemon, olives, nuts, red grapes and iced ginger white tea.

A strong healthy digestive system supports our emotional health and our ability to handle obstacles with more ease and to experience joy more easily. What are you feeding your body and belief system today? I hope it is something that makes your body happy!


Hugs, Mira

By |2017-06-07T23:04:16+00:00June 7th, 2017|

What does Fiber have to do with our emotions?


Tonight I am teaching about the 2nd Chakra in my “Making the Deeper Connection” workshop series. We will be exploring creativity, passion, transitional change and how our digestive health mirrors our emotional health. Our physical body requires fiber rich foods to stay in balance, so I have prepared some fiber rich salads (Massaged Kale salad, Lentil Spinach Greek Salad and Roasted Brussels Sprout Arugula Salad) to enjoy as we explore what emotional fiber is and how to make the connection between our emotions and our bodies.  Curious yet? I’m looking forward to the interesting conversation!


What are you feeding your body and emotions tonight?


Hugs, Mira

By |2017-05-03T23:27:48+00:00May 3rd, 2017|

Roots…they nourish and provide safety as they ground us in our beliefs


Today as I prepared for tonight’s class on the Root Chakra, I prepared roasted root veggies for a soup to nourish our bodies as we dig deep into the physicality and emotional elements of our first Chakra. The Root Chakra grounds us, defines our safety both physically and emotionally and gives us a platform for our emotional responses.

We will be exploring our belief system and whether it remains true as we connect how we feel to what we think. I’m looking forward to another inspiring class as we all learn and share together!

What is your belief system? How do you nourish your body and your mind? It is fascinating to observe how our beliefs align or not to what we think are our fundamental truths are.

Have fun exploring!


Hugs, Mira

By |2017-04-06T00:43:23+00:00April 6th, 2017|

Speaking your feelings is not as easy as it would appear…

Twice today I have seen the bravery of individuals speaking about life experiences that are not easy to share and are not easy to be heard. I myself spent my morning catching up with someone who has been in my life for a long time, listening to her talk about her day and her struggles to be seen reminded me of a younger version of myself. Over giving to be loved, not feeling the strength to ask for what I wanted or to say how I felt whether it was welcomed or not.

I was taught from a very young age that I was not to be seen or heard unless it was absolutely necessary. This skill was necessary to survive. I took that survivalist skill into my adulthood and it translated into me not having the ability to speak my feelings no matter the situation or outcome. I have over the last 5 or so years been able to bravely give myself permission to speak. It is not always easy, actually sometimes it is downright scary! I have learned the following by exercising this new skill:

I will still be alive after the last word is spoken

I am loved and lovable even if what I have to say is not popular

It is way scarier to think about saying it than actually saying it

My feelings are important and relevant

I actually enjoy sharing myself when I am asked to

My listening skills have gotten a lot better now that I am not afraid to be listened to


I am trying to be mindful of truly listening to others when they speak to me. Giving them my eyes so that they know I am engaged. I am also working hard at not offering my words in response unless asked. Sometimes all I want is to be heard so I can only imagine that others must feel the same. Speaking for me has built a strong confidence in my ability to articulate my life in a way that paints a picture of who I truly am instead of who I so desperately want to be. I am grateful for all you listeners that give me the opportunity to talk!


Hugs, Mira

By |2017-02-24T23:08:13+00:00February 24th, 2017|
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